Ep. 133 Everyone Thinks You're Fine. So Why Are You Exhausted? | Chanie Wilschanski
Have you ever been told, “I don't know how you do it all!” while secretly wondering how much longer you can keep doing it?
You're capable. You're dependable. You're the one everyone counts on. But somewhere between caring for everyone else, managing responsibilities, and keeping life moving, you've become exhausted by the very things you're good at.
And maybe the hardest part? Nobody seems to notice.
In this episode of Called & Curious, I'm sitting down with Chanie Wilschanski, founder of Schools of Excellence and author of This Can't Be Normal: What to Do When Success Starts to Feel Like Survival.
Chanie was once a mentor of mine during a season when I was learning to lead while carrying approximately a thousand invisible responsibilities. Her wisdom helped shape the way I lead today, and this conversation is one I wish every capable, tired woman could hear.
Together, we're talking about:
The invisible mental load women carry at work, at home, and in relationships—and why nobody seems to see it.
Why being competent can leave you depleted, even when your life looks successful.
The difference between being needed and being truly known, supported, and connected.
How simple rhythms, healthy boundaries, and learning to release control can help you experience more steadiness.
Why the first step toward change might not be doing something new, but finally allowing yourself to be seen.
Whether you're leading a school, raising a family, running a business, or simply trying to make it through Tuesday, this conversation is for you.
You don't have to become better at carrying everything to begin enjoying your life again.
You are allowed to be more than the person who holds everything together.
Keep the conversation going!
Here's the fun part: Hani and I interviewed each other for our podcasts, and without even planning it, both conversations are releasing on the same day! 😂
Once you've listened here, head over to the Schools of Excellence podcast, where Chani turns the microphone around and interviews me. She asks such thoughtful questions, and I think you'll love hearing the other side of our conversation.
🎧 Listen to Chani's interview with Ashriel: Coming soon!
Books to accompany your journey
Get Chani's book:
📘 This Can't Be Normal: What to Do When Success Starts to Feel Like Survival — Chanie Wilschanski
A powerful, practical invitation to recognize the invisible weight you're carrying, feel seen, and begin building rhythms that support a more sustainable, connected life.
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Friend, you were made for more than simply surviving the life you're living.
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